Share Your Story: Meet Amber Beger

Welcome to the Share Your Story series on InfertileAF, where we feature women and men willing to boldly share their personal insight into their diagnosis or their journey alongside Infertility.

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Without further ado, please meet Amber Beger.





Name: Amber Beger
Age: 32
Location: St. Louis, MO

Give us your quick bio: 
Well, where do I start? I’ve been married to the most wonderful husband, David for 6 years. I am a CT technologist and have been for 12 years. We have 2 beautiful black labs Pepper Ann and Chloe Elizabeth and yes they know mamma means business when I have to use their middle names. David and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years but that dream has been put on hold because of the Big C.


What is your personal experience with Infertility?

When I was 15 I was diagnosed with PCOS and due to a very large cyst I had to have surgery to remove it. When the doctor went into remove it, he had to remove my right Fallopian tube. So when my husband and I wanted to try to start a family we knew we needed help. 

I went to my regular OB where she prescribed Clomid after 5 months of not getting pregnant we move on and made our first appointment with a RE. After some testing it was determined that IUI would be our next step. We did 3 rounds with our first RE without success. 

I moved to a different clinic where we did 2 more IUI unfortunately those didn’t work either. Our only option was now to try IVF. At that time we didn’t have any infertility insurance coverage so we took a break. 6 months later a friend of my husband recommended a doctor he and his wife used to conceive their son. The clinic had a year seminar coming up so we attended. We by surprise won a $500  voucher to use at the office and my insurance has changed that same month to include some infertility coverage. So we made an appointment and started our IVF journey. 

We had 2 perfect embryos when it was all said and done. We decided to transfer only 1 and by surprise we were pregnant! But shortly after my numbers started to fall and I miscarried. 

My RE wanted to do a hysteroscopy and biopsy to try to determine the cause. I agreed and the results were devastating-Grade 1 endometrial cancer. So to the oncologist I went to figure out the next steps. She told me she sees quite a few young women with PCOS because endometrial cancer is caused by the increased estrogen from the ovaries. 

At this point I have been on oral medication for 1 year they have seen some regression in the cancer cells but now my only option is to try oral and IUD and if that doesn’t work within 6 months a hysterectomy. I just want young women that have PCOS whom are over weight to know this can happen because I was never told this until I was diagnosed.

At your lowest point, how did Infertility impact you?


Infertility has caused me to be depressed, withdrawn and down right angry. I never knew at 32 I would be diagnosed with cancer and might never be able to have my own child. I cry when I think I will never be able to give my husband the son he deserves.


What was the turning point in your mindset? What helped you find happiness outside of Infertility?


Right now I am focusing on trying to be a healthier me. Losing weight and eating better has given me something else to consume my mind. My husband and I bought a camper and will be spending a lot more time doing the things we love like crappie fishing and enjoying the outdoors together.


What actions did you take to help you heal?


One thing I have focused on since our miscarriage is the fact that if it didn’t happen I wouldn’t know I had cancer and who knows how my life would have been 10 years down the road. I keep focusing on the fact that everything happens for a reason even if those reasons really really sucks!


What would you tell other people facing an Infertility diagnosis?


That it’s ok to cry. I was always keeping in my tears because I felt like it was a sign of weakness. In fact it is a very good stress reliever! I also would tell them that you’re not alone. Their are so many Facebook groups that they can join with people experiencing the exact same thing and someone might be able to offer guidance or just a ear to hear about your bad day. It’s ok to be angry but find something that helps you get that anger out like kick boxing.  


How do you views align with the InfertileAF Mission?


I want other women that is experiencing infertility to know they are not alone. I want to educate young women to know that PCOS can cause endometrial cancer. I also believe you have to love yourself during infertility. Women need to know it’s ok to talk about infertility and that getting advice from friends who have gone though it is totally an ok dinner conversation!



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~Thank you, Amber, for sharing you amazing words with our audience. 

If you would like to be bold and share your perspective, be sure to submit your story HERE!